Updated: Sep 16, 2019
I sometimes find it difficult to communicate what it is that I do. My business card says Yoga and Wellness Coach, but what does that mean? Do I just help you do a better downward dog or warrior pose? Not exactly. In fact, we probably won’t even talk about either of those poses.
What I actually do is help women who feel stuck in difficult relationships and circumstances find the clarity to make brave choices so they can live the life they’re meant to live.
Sounds amazing, right? It is.
But how do I do that and what does it have to do with yoga?
Well, let me start with what it isn’t. It is not a yoga class in the typical sense, it’s not even a class at all. Most of my work is one on one, either in person or virtually through video chats. And we don’t really do many poses, certainly not what would typically be done in a group vinyasa yoga class.
What is it, though is working through limiting beliefs and false narratives that our brains and experiences have led us to believe are true. We explore the opposites of these stories and work through the process of rewriting them to better serve our true purpose.
It is learning about and beginning to set boundaries, both on ourselves and others and taking responsibility for our own thoughts, feelings, and actions while recognizing that we are absolutely not responsible for the thoughts, feelings and actions of others.
Its is learning that we choose every thought that we have and what we make that thought mean determines our feelings and our subsequent actions. We practice choosing different thoughts that lead to different feelings and actions that will better serve us and our higher purpose.
It is recognizing that the work is ours to do. That it is a life long process of choosing how we want to show up in our lives and that blaming others for our unhappiness is unproductive and will never lead us to contentment in our lives. It may be some unpleasant looks in the mirror to notice how we create our own unhappiness, but also realizing that taking responsibility for our thoughts doesn’t excuse the bad behavior of others.
So, what does all of that have to do with yoga?
Yoga is not simply the physical poses that so many of us are familiar with. In fact, that’s only about an eighth of it. Yoga is an eight-limbed path that when all of the elements are addressed, we can achieve a sense of peace regardless of the circumstances we find ourselves in.
The eight limbs include:
Yamas - Nonviolence, Truthfulness, Nonstealing, Nonexcess, and Nonpossesiveness
Niyamas - Purity, Contentment, Self-Discipline, Self-Study, and Surrender
Asanas - Physical postures
Pranayama - Breathing practices
Pratyahara - Control of the senses
Dharana - Concentration and cultivating inner perceptual awareness
Dhyana - Meditation
Samadhi - Freedom, peace, connection with the Divine
I’ll write more on the specifics of these in future posts and how we apply them to coaching sessions. But basically, the practices we use in our sessions all dovetail beautifully with the eight-limbs.
We can logically know that we create our own reality with the thoughts we have. Attitude is everything, positive self-talk, all that stuff. And that's true, but we can’t just muscle our way into changing our thoughts. We can’t have enough discipline and willpower to just not let other people and circumstances bother us. That will work for a while, but pushing down real feelings will only result in a whack-a-mole-like situation somewhere down the line and they’ll show back up somewhere.
When we practice meditation and mindfulness we create space and openness for our subconscious to rewire new thoughts into our brain. Like lifting weights changes our body, intentional thought work - when we are open to new limitless possibilities - can change our minds. Literally.
When we are in toxic and stressful relationships we often disassociate with the reality of the situation to protect ourselves emotionally. So we ignore the physical sensations that allow us to really know what emotion we’re feeling. Getting back in touch with our bodies through the physical practice can help us to feel our emotions and really define them so that we can learn to manage them and make appropriate choices in our lives.
Controlling our breath helps to restore balance in the parasympathetic nervous system turning off the fight or flight response that occurs naturally in our body during stressful experiences. And learning to identify and manage our own emotions leads to more appropriate responses to difficult situations.
And the best part is that most of this happens while you’re lying on the floor, completely relaxed and covered with a comforting blanket.
Why do I need a coach for all of that?
Yoga has been around for thousands of years. A quick Google search for “yoga” shows about 1,890,000,000 results. There’s plenty of information out there.
What I can do is teach you the tools specific to your circumstances and provide a roadmap for you to follow. Like your own personal eight-limbed path to peace and contentment in any situation.
A coach can often see things clearly that our own experiences and protective measures don’t allow us to see. A coach can offer an outside perspective, clear and effective tools and the held space to be seen and heard and to learn to know your own value, regardless of what you may be hearing from the people and circumstances around you.
If any of this resonates with you, I would love to work with you. To share these tools so that you have them in your back pocket anytime you need them.
In my life, these practices have changed how I see myself, who I spend my time with, and have helped me find my true calling and purpose. To live the life God created me to live. I want that sense of clarity and peace for you.
Let’s talk and see if Yoga and Wellness coaching is for you. And if it’s not, that's ok too. You get to make that choice. And I’ll support you making it.
You can book a Free Consultation call with me here. I can’t wait to hear from you!
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